By Peter Chipkin (President of EASE Meditation),
One way to deal with your fears is to write them down. Another way is to meditate. Mature readers know, the world is not binary. You can use more than one technique. Pick and choose.
This is the list of things that I am scared of right now:
(By the way, It was much easier to write that heading than to start to put things on it. Because as soon as I started to think about things to put on the list, my mind kept going “What ? really ? that seems pretty trivial !)
So these are the 1st three things I wrote down
- That I might become a refugee, trapped by poverty and politics
- That I might be forced to live even if I want to die.
- That I might be forced to act inhumanely in order to survive.
See what I mean. But I don’t think that list is the truth. Once I reacquinted myself with reality I was able to try this exercise again. Here is what I came up with:
- My biggest fear is weighing more than 250 pounds. I once did and I hated myself so much that I am determined to never do that again.
- My biggest fear is being poor.
- Not being looked after if I need care and help.
- Not being able to protect my family
- Not being able to provide for my family
- Not being able to provide the help they might need
- And worst of all – having to experience my family’s anguish as if they were experiencing it.
So many things to be scared of, but oftentimes it is difficult to express them. While most things on this list are things I have control over, many are not. Sometimes life hands you a bad hand and our fears become reality.
One thing that I keep in mind is that fear is a valid and appropriate human emotion. Usually fear is my response to the unknown. After writing down these fears I see that I do have a say in what happens, but not always. I cannot prevent tragedy, but I can watch my weight and make the right decisions financially. I can protect my family to the best of my ability, I can be a role model too.
What is important is to prevent your fear taking on a disguise and acting out in some other way in your life. Often, I have noticed, that fear hides under misdirected anger. Anger that says it’s about one thing but which is really about another thing – your fear.
With practice, those who meditate can separate the experience of an emotion and the way they respond. They insert thought and choice into the process. Usually that makes for an easier life.
Try Writing Down Your Fears
I invite you to try this exercise. Try writing down the 10 things that you fear most.
Then, meditate on these. Ask yourself, Is this really a logically thing for me to fear? Could this possibly happen? What steps can I take today to prevent a tragic tomorrow?
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